Today I was thinking back to my pregnancy and I got all worked up again…Why do people feel like they can comment freely on a pregnant woman’s body?
Case in point, I teach at a local university in the evenings. I informed my class at the beginning of the semester that I was pregnant, just to avoid the awkward questions throughout the semester. A fat lot of good that did me!
Every week, my students comment on how pregnant I am, specifically noting the size of my belly. After the second week, I stopped class and said something along these lines:
Remember, I told you I was pregnant and as I think you recall from junior high health class that means I will continue to get bigger each week. Yes, but the end of the semester I will be the size of a whale and you will wonder why how I am capable of wattling in here to teach you. However, please stop talking about my body — just keep these observations to yourself.
I might have left the whale part out, but you get the idea.
For some reason, people see a woman sporting a pregnant belly and feel like they can say things like:
“Wow, you are so big.” — Ummm.
“You could have that baby any day!” — Well, actually have three more months.
“You are so cute, like a little pot-bellied pig!” — Is that supposed to be a complement?
I am always amazing by other mothers who say this shit! Don’t they remember the weird strangers at the grocery store? Don’t they recall crossing their arms or putting on the death stare as you can see someone reaching out for your belly. Oh yes, if you haven’t had the pleasure of being pregnant and having a stranger rub your belly — you are really missing out!
So, just stop and think.
Don’t touch strangers.
Don’t talk about someone else’s body, period. Not even if they ask!
Don’t ever tell a pregnant woman (or anyone else for that matter) that they look big! The only people who can say you look big and genuinely think it is a complement — are CHILDREN!
You might as well leaving the glowing part out of it too….the preggos know we are just sweating and it doesn’t make us feel any better about it.
Just a friendly PSA